We never heard of a so-called "love map". Every person has a map on their own love. This kind of inner guidance that leads tastes choosing a life partner. Map to determine the preferences of love someone more interested in other types of specific types.
There are men who prefer the motherly woman, which attractive women, in women with large breasts or berpanggul wide, and so on. So did the women. There are more like the kind of guy skinny, muscular man, who tepos or barrel-chested. There are also women who are more interested in men fatherhood.
Love map is built from childhood experiences, pleasant and painful. Is also influenced by the attitude of the family, past trauma, education, and personality.
Map of the love that leads people to seek and find his friend. There is a certain prototype in inner picture, like what he likes the opposite sex. "You are my ideal type." So we often hear when people find the same figure with the image of the inner prototype. Children tend mom is looking for a motherly companion. Children papi found on fatherly figure.
But not everyone managed to grant his message of love maps. Not everyone is married to someone according to a map image of his love. It is said that the case of Bill Clinton, for example.
Trauma of the past Bill Clinton from his stepfather, for example, as analyzed by columnist Camille Plagia (Salon Magazine), is said to make Clinton more berpreferensi of an intelligent woman, attractive and sensual.
The prototype for the ideal Clinton supposedly did not fully found in Hillary Clinton, his wife. Hillary even considered the Western press as a forgiving person but frigid mother. While Clinton himself increasingly find themselves as a person who brings a fatherly nature (fatherly drive).
That is why, perhaps, a teenage girl, who by keeping certain childhood trauma, the electra complex, the love and closer to the father, generally berpreferensi find a fatherly figure of a man like Clinton. It is unclear what Kathleen Wiley, Gennifer Flowers, Paula Jones and Monica Lewinsky, and God knows who else, who recorded and accused Clinton's affair with a woman belonging to a man's fatherly love.
Anatomy of an affair most modern people can be so described. That the husband or wife found a new and more complete person or really a whole in accordance with the map of his love, after already married. The failure of men and women find the ideal type of a husband or wife is a potential time bomb of marriage if one day the husband or wife have a chance for falling in love with someone who has exactly the type of map images in his love.
So it is normal that people can fall in love again. Conflicts arise when the new option was found after people have a husband or wife.
Harold Bessel PhD, a lot of questions to his love and life partner choice reveals elements of romantic attraction (romantic attraction) and the maturity of emotion (emotional maturity) as a factor which also determines the quality of marriage. The elements taken into consideration how people decide his choice of friends.
Not all
But not everyone who selected his friends dinilainya fitting, will necessarily destroy the marriage. Maybe one day in the life of marriage, husband and wife could have found romantic attraction to women or other men. It could be engrossment in meeting men and women who have husbands or wives are no erotic meaning, and make them fall in love and took it to marriage.
Opportunity to fall in love and fall in love again like it could be repeated every time a husband or wife met another ideal type. But certainly not all spit his emotions so that the opportunity to fall in love again it must be true. Attachment of people with religion, ethics, a sense of loyalty, attitude and outlook on life, meeting a husband or wife with someone who feels more ideal than their own husband or wife, does not necessarily end with falling in love, romance and marriage.
Marriage is fragile or dirapuhkan by circumstances, usually easily swayed by the opportunity for a husband or wife who falls in love again secretly usually maintained. In the middle of a marriage model that is more open (open marriage) as the average modern marriage now, more open opportunity for husband and wife fall in love and fall in love again. Sikon husband and wife can hang out a career making more open to women and men who may be more ideal than his own friends. Careers are often brought men and women find the ideal type of husband or wife of another.
Model of marriage most people now judged through the process of "Scholarship", said Bessel. Male-female interaction is now more quickly and easily bring them into the bedroom to the living sex than love. Love made become synonymous with sex. When sex was not anything else, when sex is boring, meetings become timeless love.
That's why people now belong to love love "Scholarship", the love that grows faster on the lips, but not in the liver. Love model "love that" or "love for", the kind of love is unconditional. "I love you if you want to give me sex!"
That means no more love when sex is no longer there. Or, "I love you because you're beautiful, you're cute and nice." So not pretty, not cute and not good anymore, love no longer exists.
Instead of true love that he kind of "love though". "I love you even though you do not give sex, even if you have an old woman, even though you are disabled and deformed."
Hedonistic attitude of most people living today, or a pragmatic tendency to choose life, leading people to worship more than Princess Diana Mother Teresa, for example. Phenomenon that invites people prefer to put their values simply for the enjoyment of life, "know one but so be it", because everyone did the same. Snobisme attitudes like this that makes most of the levels of marital love is now just a mere imitation.
